Yukyin just hanged up a call with her mum.
I don't know how to describe the situation, but her mum is a very sad person. She does not receive a lot of support from her husband or should I say that she does not receive any at all. She is lacking love, appreciation, kindness, attention... anyway, what should be standard care from any marriage.
We don't really know what to do, how to help her, the only thing we can try to do is to show her our love between us, and pour some in her life. I don't think that we have the perfect concept of love. But with Christ as our model, I don't think we can grow wrong.
It is written:
"22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."
Before my marriage, these words have been complete mystery... :D I really thank Yukyin and the Holy Spirit for showing such patience with me. Explaining this short extract would request too much time that I don't have... and besides, I don't know if I am the right one to do so. But, I can share with you the way I love Yukyin.
As stated, Love is something husband is responsible of giving to his wife, it's not the other way around. I love Yukyin from the bottom of my heart, I am willing to give my life for her as Christ gave His life for me. I am willing to make her holy as Christ made us holy by sacrificing for us. I love her as I love myself. That's pretty much the way I see it, it's pretty funny that God give this commandment to man, as we are quite clumsy when it comes to speak about feelings and emotions. But I assure you that it's not too late, there are ways to learn how to please and love your partner, and for the one that already live a great love, I pray that it continues to be that way and that God bless your marriage.
Wive is to submit herself to the husband. To be honest, at first, I was quite chocked by these words as I was only thinking about submission as a master and slave relation. Man and Woman have been created equals in the eyes of God, how can He use such a word then? In fact, if He can't be wrong, I am the one to be wrong. Submission as stated here is a induced submission (not sure if I sounds English). Yukyin answers to my love by submitting herself to me. I don't get it by force or by any form of wicked manner, I receive and appreciate the joys of her love because at first, I love her. If your husband does not love as you would like him to do, then, maybe that's your requirements that are too high. Learn how to appreciate him.
There is too much things to be said about this topic, too much to be written here, if you are still single, Love is far from easy, so don't spend too much time dreaming about it... :) if you have a partner, I pray that God gives you wings to love each other.
To get back to my mother in law, I want to profit of this post as a call to prayer, I know that there is a lot of people suffering everywhere in this world, but if you have the time, just 20 seconds, I want to ask you to pray for her, God will certainly bless you as you do so.